I'm a control freak mom! Sarah is a very stubborn and (sometimes) independent child. This is not a good combination.I buy her very cute clothes which I want her to wear. She wants to wear princess dresses (the same one) every single day. If she does wear real clothes, they are usually my least favorite thing in her entire closet. She would wear a dress every single day if I let her. I buy her cute shoes. She wants to wear princess shoes everywhere. I don't allow her to wear princess dresses or shoes out of the house. By noon every day guaranteed she is wearing her princess duds. Sometimes she puts them on first thing in the morning-we stay home those days. Often I find that it simply isn't worth the battle to get her to change.
She wants princess hair-down without any ribbons, bows, or elastics. This leads to her hair in her face constantly and, in my opinion, looks less than great (see previous post). It gets dirty and full of snarls. She simply cannot be convinced that pulling her hair out of her eyes is a smart move. I want her hair pulled back in pigtails, braids, or other cute styles. On those rare occasions when she lets me do her hair (usually after a lengthy argument), she pulls it out anyway.
She is 3 1/2 years old and is capable of doing many things on her own. She wants me to do everything for her. I'm the mom, not the slave. Yesterday I told her she needed to wash her hands as they were obviously dirty. She refused to wash them until I turned on the light. Hello-she can totally do this herself which I told her. She then proceeded to follow me around the apartment and scream at me to turn the light on. After 15 minutes I was determined to outlast her if it took the rest of my life. She lasted for 45 minutes. Finally, I won a battle.
Sometimes I win the battles; sometimes she does. I am determined to win the war (even if it takes every last bit of energy I possess-which it might) and have a strong and independent daughter who is a leader and a unique individual who knows what she wants out of life. Today I'm grateful for her intelligence, her strength, her desire to always be near me (even though sometimes it drives me bonkers!), and even her energy. She's a great kid! Today I'll try to not be such a control freak mom and just let her be Sarah-unless she's naughty-I'll put the kabosh on that for sure!
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Wow. She and Lexi are alike in OH SO MANY ways. I'm sure that's why they get in a few tiffs, eh? Good thing they're strong girls, though. They're going to need to be to get through life nowadays.
Sounds like someone in my household! I worry most about channeling that stubbornness, energy, and smarts in the right direction of life. Hang in there with those battles of wills!
I was reading the things that you miss in Utah and I realize that I have posession of half of the list...sad.
I'd say Rachel and Sarah have a lot in common these days. I only managed to get Rachel to put her hair up today for her birthday because I had a new "princess" hair holder. It only lasted halfway through the day before she took it out. Her current favorite outfit is her leotard, which she wears daily. We have at least reached an understanding that she doesn't go out of the house in it and she's good about changing, but that took a few weeks of negotiations. I'd like to blame the stubborness on the Vawdreys side, but I have to say that Rachel is a mini-me. Looks like we're in for a wild ride.
That is sad, Laura. I hope you're taking good care of my things and yet not taking them for granted, either.
I read this article and thought of Sarah... and my niece... and judging by the other comments here, every little girl.
http://www.newsweek.com/id/70985
mmmmmmmmmm I like them naughty mum
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